Yesterday I woke up and thought about writing a post on the kids going back to school, and how things change when we're back on a routine and how chaotic summer was even though we didn't do much. But it happened, I got smacked on the side of the head with a hard dose of perspective just when I needed it.
If you don't know by now, the hubs is a police officer. I mention it from time to time, but I never really go into much detail about it. For his safety, and ours, I normally choose not to make it a topic of conversation on the internet.
You see though, it's because of this life we chose that I've been gifted with this amazing ruler for everything else around us. A measure of whether or not to worry, get upset, or be fearful.
Just when I start getting wrapped up in things or events that feel SO BIG, it never fails that a bigger life and death type situation comes along and snaps me right back to reality. All of a sudden, those big things don't seem so big anymore. No one died from my actions today? No. Hubs and all his coworkers came home safe from work today? Yes. Ok, I can handle it.
That makes things a whole lot clearer, doesn't it? If you're scared to do something big, or you're waiting for the right time, or you feel yourself getting wrapped up in some big feelings, I highly suggest testing this ruler out.
I don't want to discount your fears or feelings, because everyone has a right to their own and I know they're very real. What I'm saying is take a step back every once in awhile and ask yourself these questions:
Did anyone, or will anyone, die from my actions?
Did everyone make it home safe?
If you answered no to the first question and yes to the second, then it's not as big as you thought. BOOM! Done.
I know those are very black and white, big picture type questions. Twelve years and a number of scary incidents later, this police wife has learned that those questions are the only ones that matter at the end of the day.